How Do You Know When It's Time to Let Go of Something You Love?

This was the last Freedom Fridays Happy Hour. Not the end of my business — just the end of this particular way of showing up. And I wanted to talk through why, because I think a lot of us are sitting on a decision just like this one. Something we love that's quietly wearing us thin. Something we're scared to put down because we don't know who we are without it.

I walked into this episode feeling relief. Not grief. Not panic. Relief. And I had to sit with that, because relief is information. When you feel relief about letting go of something you genuinely love, that's usually a sign that some part of it had been quietly burning you down. Six months into my new job, I realized I was spreading myself too thin. It's okay to adjust. It's okay for relief to be the feeling that tells you it's time.

This is the part that gets me every time I have to make a change like this. It feels like quitting. It feels like giving up. It feels like letting people down. I had to have actual conversations with myself reminding me that I'm not quitting my business just because I'm not doing this livestream anymore. None of that pretending is true — but it's what quietly runs through our minds when we make shifts in our lives. The truth is, we're not quitting. We're honoring what we actually need.

Before I got into the heavier stuff, I wanted to celebrate something — over the life of this show, we gave out 366 stickers for prioritizing rest and fun. That's not just a fun number. That's 366 separate moments where someone chose themselves instead of pushing through. I hope that doesn't stop just because the show is ending. I hope you keep rewarding yourself for choosing rest, with or without me watching.

I've been doing some thinking about my energy — in my business, in my friendships, in dating. I'm done with the masculine energy of chasing someone down to get them to want what I have. I want to move into the feminine energy of inviting. Sharing what I have, and trusting that the people who want to be close will lean in. And if they don't take me up on it, that's okay too. I'm not chasing anymore. Not an email list, not a relationship, not anything.

I noticed something about the guy I was seeing — he had a bit of a scarcity mindset. And helping someone move out of that mindset is work. It's coaching. And I don't want to coach my partner. I need someone who already has their own support system, their own therapist, their own tools — because if I'm coaching at home too, I never get to put the cape down. I never get to just be held. That's not what I'm building toward.

Here's the bigger truth underneath all of this: everything I teach in my own coaching is about listening to your body and your needs instead of bullying yourself into staying the same just because change feels scary. That applies to relationships. To jobs. To routines. To livestreams. When the season changes and the thing no longer fits, you're allowed to adjust. It doesn't mean you're failing. It means you're paying attention.

Jaiyé with Rashidat is where we go deeper into exactly this. It's my flagship course and community where I walk you through the tools that have helped me build a life that evolves with me instead of one I have to force myself to fit into.

Thank you for 146 episodes of Freedom Fridays Happy Hour. This isn't goodbye — it's just a different way of staying connected. Email me at [email protected].